Colin Weil

Dear Colin: I’m a woman in her 30s and considering a parenting partnership with a guy in his 40s who I was previously seeing. However, he didn’t want to live under the same roof while we tried to get pregnant and wouldn’t agree to marriage once we determined that we wanted to raise our child in Canada (I’m American). He also misled me on his age – do you think these are red flags that suggest we shouldn’t co-parent?

Dear Jey, It sounds like there is a lot of complexity in your relationship, having started as lovers.  As such, before deciding you can co-parent with him, I think you need to finish processing your relationship with each-other.  Are you friendly exes?   Might you resume a romantic relationship down the line? Most importantly –…

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Heidi Sadowsky

Dear Heidi: Was there something specific that made you “pull the trigger” on co-parenting and stop waiting for Mr. Right?

In the past, I thought I would activate my “back-up” plan at the age of 36.  When I turned 36, I still wasn’t in a serious relationship, but I was on the cusp of a major career change and didn’t think it was a good time to have a baby (and in the back of…

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Colin Weil

Dear Colin: What role does your extended family play in your child’s life?

My daughter is just as much a grandchild, niece or cousin as all of her cousins, regardless of their parenting models.  And that is to say – very connected. Though geographically most relatives aren’t close, she sees those who are frequently, and is in touch with the whole mishpacha virtually.

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Colin Weil

Dear Colin: Your profile mentions that you first thought about single parenting. What made you decide not to pursue that path?

When I tried to visualize blending my work-life, which includes frequent late-nights and travel, with the kind of parent I wanted to be, I just couldn’t “see it.”  And paying others to raise my child had no appeal.

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Susan May

Dear Susan: What’s the biggest benefit to living together with your parenting partner?

Our daughter has the benefit of BOTH of us, right at her fingertips! Co-living gives us the flexibility to make late plans, and best of all: saves on baby-sitting (we haven’t used a baby-sitter since she was 2 years old)!

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Tim Croneberger

Dear Tim: Is your co-parenting schedule consistent, or does it vary depending on your co-parents’ needs?

Every co-parenting relationship will be different but for us, its a really fluid, ever changing schedule based on the three parents’ availability and needs.  Heather and Abbie are incredibly responsive to my needs- when I miss the kids and want to come for dinner or take Tommy for the afternoon to the park and to…

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